Dear Christian single men 18 to 40,
Hello. This is part blog,
part open letter, and I’m gearing this almost exclusively to Christian single
men in their young adulthood up to their late 30s and early 40s. So if this is you, please read this with an
open mind. If you know somebody who fits
the aforementioned category, I greatly encourage you to send this blog to them
as they need to read this. Seriously,
they need to see it.
OK, I’ve mentioned
a couple of times in previous blogs, I come from an evangelical Christian
background, Southern Baptist, to be exact.
Although I’m not particularly religious and haven’t been for about nine
years, I still have a great respect for Christians and Christian Conservatives
despite the incredible persecution they face daily, whether online or in real
life, the former persecution being from the left and being verbal or written,
and the latter being mainly from Muslims worldwide and being very physical and
brutal. I’m not some “keyboard atheist;”
I’m not writing this letter to bash you and ridicule and belittle you, like all
the online atheists/liberals/Marxists do continuously.
Yeah, I’m not like that.
At all. I was once one of you,
and, even though I’m not so much now, I still empathize and respect and honor
your beliefs very much.
However,
Nevertheless,
But,
Regardless,
I need to convey this to you guys, as politely and
respectively as I can.
Single young Christian men…
…it’s…it’s time. It’s
just time. It’s time for you to drop out of church once and for all.
I mean it. It’s time
to stop going to church for good, and never go back. Don’t you think it’s high time?
Why are you
going? Why are you even bothering?? Is it because your parents are really pushing
for you to go? Is it just because you’re
active in various ministries and worship opportunities there? I know the feeling, as I was very active in
the drama group (indeed, the main actor and one of the main writers of our
amazing plays and videos) and loved, loved, loved it and lived for it as I love
theater. But secular theater is all
godless liberals, and it was great to be around non-godless conservatives and immerse
myself in something that I absolutely loved doing and was talented in doing. So I understand where you are coming from if
you like being part of various groups and ministries in church. But being part of that doesn’t even come
close to outweighing the elephant in the room, and that is…
…you’re single. Very
single. Alone. Probably rarely or never had somebody. And it’s not changing one bit for the better,
now is it? Look around you on a Sunday
morning. Who do you see?
1. Old people, some of them so elderly they are weeks away
from keeling over;
2. Married couples your age, all of them with children, and
all they ever talk about is their friggen kids all the time;
3. Maybe one or two divorced, used-up women with kids, just
in church to look for a sugar daddy to take care of them and their demon
offspring before they hit the Wall;
4. Single men aged 18 to 40.
That’s it. Even in
mega-churches, that’s all there is. I
mean, we’re talking thousands upon thousands of active members…and no real
Christian single females. Wow. I went several times to Meadowbrook Church in
Ho-cala, I mean, Ocala, because I had a friend who went there. Big church, yet no singles group. Just lots of #4 and a couple of #3, along
with couples who weren’t married yet, so they got stuck in the “singles’
group.” I went several times to the
uber-huge and vibrant and conservative Calvary Baptist Church in Clearwater in the Tampa Bay
area with two friends. Fantastic church,
but again, no single women, just a couple of scantily-clad sluts in stripper
heels and mini-skirts who obviously were there just to put in some church time;
they sure weren’t looking for good guys, because they ignored the pew of all of
us. I emailed the church back in 2011,
asking for info on the young singles group; never even got a response,
obviously because they don’t even have such a group. Here’s an excellent YouTube video about the
subject from one of the gods of the MGTOW movement, Sandman. Please listen to him:
Couldn’t agree more.
Sandman is from Toronto, Canada, but his words still ring true here in
the U.S. No single good-looking female
is going to go to church, because they are hot and they think they don’t need
God. That’s why there are no hot babe
Christian women, and even those who are somewhat attractive are already
married. You can keep waiting and
waiting for some Godly, good-looking maiden to come to your church, plop
herself down on the pew next to you, and fall in love, but…it’s not gonna
happen!!
Back in 2011, an
extensive study was published by Stanford University regarding where and how people
met their spouses or partners here in the U.S.
The data that was gathered spanned from 1940 to 2010, and here is the
telling graph:
Finding somebody at
church was always not that large of a percentage, but now it’s down to
literally nothing. I mean, look at the
graph: it’s plummeted to virtually zero!
In fact, almost every way of meeting a spouse/romantic partner has
fallen, except for online and restaurants/bars, which have leveled off as of
2010; I imagine now in 2017, those numbers have fallen drastically as
well. Have you ever met a decent female
at a bar or restaurant? I’ve been to
dozen upon dozens of them over the past several years and have met or even seen
none at all. And we all know how
horrible online dating is.. Click here to view a blog I wrote about what’s left as far as single females are concerned. So, as you can see, very few people are really
meeting anybody anymore, but they sure as heck ain’t meeting them in church!! If you think that you’re going find somebody
at church, the evidence is overwhelmingly not in your favor, both from
exhaustive studies and from your personal experience and mine.
I’ve visited a
number of medium-to-large-sized Southern Baptist and Assembly of God churches
from Ho-cala to Whorelando to Tampa over the years, and have come up with
nothing to show for it in the way of meeting decent women. And you know it’s the same with you, so stop
living in denial. As Sandman succinctly
put it, they’re not there, as they think they don’t need God. And if they were there, they wouldn’t want
you as they would be banging the bad boys outside of church; I’ve known a lot
of girls over the years who did that, and you have, too.
I used to go to a
local church and was super-active there for years, and there was a guy there
named David who—like most of the young men there—was very single. He was tall,
well-built, and slightly attractive, compared to me, who is short, fat, and
bald. He just sat there and kept waiting
and waiting for a perfect female to drop from the ceiling and land next to him
up in the balcony where he was our light & sound technician. He had a couple of chances for girls, but he
backed out because they weren’t the world’s perfect Christian ladies (hint,
guys: there are none anymore). Waiting
and waiting. Well, David is now past 40,
still a virgin, and still sitting there, waiting for a single woman to show
up. Hasn’t happened, and never will
happen. And ditto for you guys as well.
Back in the day (2003
to 2008, mainly), I hung around over a dozen men around my age here in the
north central Florida area who were Christian and single. Now, the only one I know of who regularly
goes to church is poor ol’ David.
Everybody else has left the local churches out of frustration, mainly
because of the lack of women and the lack of reasons for them to even remain
there. Why bother going if you’re a
third wheel, a leftover, awkwardly sitting there with couples while they
incessantly talk about their spouses and kids.
Ugh! You know full well you don’t belong there
anymore, guys. There’s no place in
church for single males our age. Time
to leave. Start this Sunday. Seriously, guys.
Am I saying that you
should reject your faith? No, not at
all. I hope that doesn’t happen. What I am saying is that there’s no reason or
no place for you to be in the houses of worship anymore and it’s only going to
get worse as church attendance has been dropping continuously and steadily for
over 15 years straight. Perhaps you and
your fellow Christian dudes could just meet in your homes and have your own
worship services? The first Christians
did just that…and thrived! Try it. Meet at one of your homes or apartments, or
even at a picnic table at a park. Go for
it. Beats sitting in a sanctuary filled
with couples and old geezers, listening to a seven-part sermon series on
marriage and the family, now doesn’t it?
Admit it: that last sentence struck a nerve, didn’t it? Been there, done that. We all have.
Single Christian
men, it’s high time for you to ditch church and give up on finding somebody
there. Pack up and go, for your own good
and for your own sake. You’ll thank me. I wish you all the best in your journey
toward self-awareness. MGTOW!
Very
Sincerely,
“Luke
Johnstone”
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